She had been drinking non-stop and taking assorted party drugs - and there were tons of soap bubbles shooting out of cannons, deafening music, she was completely tripping balls, and she had to pee...
After a successful intervention, it is common for the identified loved one to delay the check-in process for a few days. Although work and family commitments are often cited, some people use seemingly trivial reasons, such as upcoming holidays and events, as a means of avoidance.
Continuing to use is a direct path to problems while a life in recovery is full of new opportunities. Things that I couldn’t imagine doing when I was using are now my reality.
Comprehensive Care, the POC goes into treatment with love. We continue to meet as a family while they are in treatment. The family is also prepared to support their journey of recovery after treatment.
We have all had cravings for food, cravings pop up out of no where and can be so strong that we 'just must' act on them. How many slices of pizza, General Tso's Chicken, and late night Ben and Jerry's binges have you had that were born of a craving for them?
In recovery, the butterfly effect starts with a simple phone call. The first call is the start of a process, the first flap of the butterfly’s wings.
The trauma of loss – of culture, family, and country – could drive anyone to cope by using alcohol. People of those generations may have been trying their best to raise their children, but they probably didn’t have much bandwidth to parent.
When I present someone new with options for recovery, I often hear two common objections. They are; “I’m a private person” and/or “I have to do it my way.” Both of these justifications keep the person from actively beginning their path to recovery.
The addict is the major focus of the family. So family members spend much of their time and energy dealing with the addict unconsciously. This includes helping, enabling, or covering up their behavior to preserve the norm.
here are two very successful programs with proven results for long-term recovery. They are; the Human Intervention Motivation Study (HIMS) for pilots and Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) for physicians. Both programs boast an above an 80% success rate at long-term recovery. Other general programs without a similar foundation have a success rate of less than 20%.
I don’t know how a trauma in my family a few generations back might show up in my life, that is until I recently passed up buying a pumpkin. I stood in front of a beautiful pumpkin at a farm stand. It was marked half price and I stood in front of it, frozen, unable to decide if I wanted to buy it. I walked away from that pumpkin feeling sick to my stomach.
Families know in their guts that something isn’t right. When they address the concerned person, a process of gaslighting, or turning the warranted concern around on the person that voiced it. As a result, loved ones start to question their premonition and offer the person the benefit of the doubt all the while, the addiction is unknowingly in control of everyone affected.
What if I asked you to drop your phone in the mailbox and send it to me? It's a big ask, isn't it? We’ve become reliant on phones for years, habitually checking for new messages and reading updated news, and now here I am, telling you to give it up.
If you consider yourself a functional alcoholic, are you really functioning at your highest level? Or have you lowered the bar of what’s acceptable to cater to your addiction?