Active addiction slowly becomes the manager of family situations before the family interventions actually kicks off in most cases. It is common to see families ashamed of behaviors that have spilled out into public view. Finances are sucked up by the addiction and relationships break down with anger and distrust. Then there is the pattern: the person of concern gets their addiction into remission for a few days or weeks and the family breathes a sigh of relief, only to be proven wrong yet again with another outburst of the addiction.
The process of intervention is an opportunity for the family to come together and manage the addiction in a proactive way. For years, families respond to the chaos of addiction. Intervention is the opportunity for a family to look at that pattern and determine how they will handle future situations.
Intervention formalizes consequences to the person of concern’s choice to continued use. Up to the point of intervention, the addiction has “gotten away” with everything. The effects of the addiction on the family have not been clearly understood by the person using. The person of concern might say things like, “it’s my life, I can do whatever I want” or “I am only hurting myself, why do you care?” They don’t understand or see the destruction of their paths, the extent of how it’s harming them and those who care about them.
Intervention lays out the causes and effects clearly
It’s up to the person of concern if they choose to continue to use, but they must understand that that choice is not made in a vacuum. This decision to use is met with clearly defined consequences. We hope that these defined consequences will help them understand how deeply their addiction is affecting the people around them.
Intervention has witnesses
Prior to intervention, each family member might be left alone to make agreements or establish boundaries. In a family of 4, three people are responding differently and they are left to uphold their own boundaries. Coming together on one unified front leaves less room for the person with addiction to get away with their using behaviors.
Intervention is fair
Both sides are given an opportunity to tell what they need and what they want. A fair path forward is defined when both sides understand each other.
Intervention stops secrets
No one has the story straight when it comes to addiction, because that’s how addiction thrives. While parents talk to each other, siblings and friends keep secrets, some knowing more than others when it comes to the person of concern’s use. Intervention blows up the secretive hiding spots of addiction and gets the truth out in the open so all parties can begin to heal.
Intervention has consensus
A path of recovery, or a path of continued use has to be acceptable to both sides. It’s common to see the person of concern choosing a path of least resistance to recovery, a path seldom acceptable to the family. Without formal intervention, addiction buffalos the family into accepting this path which is unfair and often, ineffective. Intervention allows the family to express what they need from the person of concern, the process they expect adherence to and what accountability to that process looks like.
Intervention establishes a board of directors
Prior to intervention, each member of the family is left to figure out what to do on their own. Intervention breaks the cycle of each person left to manage on their own, and establishes a process for all affected to have a say and to help each other manage the cycle of addiction and recovery.
Intervention follows a process
Just like managing a big project at work, there is a process that must be followed, or a sequential set of steps. Recovery requires a process and intervention defines the timeline and steps that must be taken to carry that process out.
Just like we learned in high school physics, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Intervention helps everyone to be on the same page and move forward with both sides understanding what life looks like if recovery is chosen and what life will look like if continued use is chosen. By defining consequences, the family is managing the addiction, not the other way around.
About Suntra Modern Recovery and Adam Banks
Adam Banks is a certified interventionist atSuntra Modern Recovery. After receiving an MBA from the University of Chicago, Adam built a company that was later acquired by United Health Care. His discipline and attention to detail comes from his former career as an airline pilot, holding an ATP, the FAA’s highest license.
Today, Adam is dedicated to helping others achieve long term sobriety. His work as an interventionist has guided executives, pilots, and physicians on paths to recovery. Adam brings families together through a loving and inclusive approach.
Suntra Modern Recovery provides medical treatment for alcohol and opiate addictions via video visit with medical doctors. Treatment for alcohol, opiate and heroin addiction, including Suboxone treatment, can start today. Suntra’s alcohol and drug intervention services are available locally in New York, Long Island, the Hamptons as well as nationally and internationally.
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